Inner Turmoil

An online friend is going through a rough time right now, and another friend was giving her some encouraging words. "His crazy actions are only a reflection of his own inner turmoil, not a reflection of you....."

How often do we do that? Take our own inner turmoil and project it onto our loved ones. Instead of realizing it's our own crap that needs dealing with, we start to take it out on those we love--she's not good enough, he's not following through, they need to get it together....

I know I do it, and I'm holding myself accountable. I'm trying to learn many lessons at once this year, but the biggest one is "when to keep my mouth shut." Too often I speak before I think, especially to fill a gap in conversation. I'm not perfect at it yet (really, who is?) but I acknowledge that I am working on it.

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In other news...I knit two more baby hats.



Don't look at me like that.